Why can we as guys all relate to reality star Jamie Laing's story about reaching his ‘lowest point’?

Date: Saturday 17 May 2025

“I didn’t talk about it to anyone and because of that, I didn’t understand if it was ever going to stop. When you don’t know if something is ever going to end, it’s a really scary position to be in.”

In the quiet of what we call the Third Space, Jamie Laing’s story feels like a mirror held up to the struggles many men face but rarely name. His journey from the isolation of his first panic attack to the camaraderie of a WhatsApp group called "Checking In" is a reminder that vulnerability is not weakness. It’s a bridge.

Laing’s words about his lowest point resonate deeply: the fear of not knowing if the pain will ever stop, the loneliness of carrying it in silence. For many men, this is the unspoken reality. We’re taught to endure, to push through, to keep the mask firmly in place. But as Jamie discovered, the act of reaching out of saying, “I’m not okay” can be transformative. It’s not about fixing everything in one conversation. It’s about no longer being alone in it.

The stigma he speaks of, the one that keeps men from opening up, is still very real. It’s woven into the fabric of how we’re raised, how we’re expected to perform strength rather than live it. But Jamie’s story shows that change is possible. It starts with small, brave acts: asking a mate, “Do you ever feel lonely?” or creating a space, even a digital one, where honesty is welcomed.

His metaphor of pain being temporary is powerful. Whether it’s the physical strain of running 150 miles or the mental weight of anxiety, the reminder that “this will pass” is a lifeline. It doesn’t erase the struggle, but it offers hope—a thread to hold onto when the darkness feels endless.

Jamie’s redefinition of success is perhaps the most striking part of his journey. In a world that often equates success with material achievements or physical prowess, he points to something deeper: kindness, openness, and connection. These are the qualities that truly sustain us, that make life meaningful.

For the men reading this, Jamie’s story is an invitation. Not to run an ultra-marathon or start a podcast, but to take one small step toward openness. Maybe it’s a text to a friend, a moment of honesty in a conversation, or even just sitting with the thought that it’s okay to not be okay.

What’s one small step you could take today? Even if it’s just a thought, let it be enough.

Read the full article on Jamie here: https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/jamie-laing-panic-attack-mental-health-b2749079.html

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