Why It Took Until The Age Of 60 To Learn To Cry
Date: Wednesday 16 Apr 2025
David Williams’s story, featured in The Guardian, is a powerful narrative of resilience, emotional transformation, and the courage to embrace vulnerability later in life. Growing up in a tough environment, David learned to suppress his emotions, internalising the societal belief that vulnerability equates to weakness. This emotional suppression persisted through significant life challenges, including the loss of his mother, a marriage breakdown, and a life-threatening brain tumour. However, it wasn’t until a breakdown at 59 that David allowed himself to grieve, cry, and begin the healing process.
David’s journey highlights that emotional breakthroughs can happen at any stage of life. His story reframes breakdowns as opportunities for renewal, describing them as “the old you dying” and a chance to rebuild. By opening up to his sisters and joining a support group, David found relief and connection, proving that vulnerability fosters healing and strength.
At Brothers in Arms, we recognise the challenges men face in expressing emotions due to societal expectations. David’s story underscores the importance of breaking the silence around men’s mental health. Our flagship tool, Blethr, offers a safe, stigma-free space for men to explore and express their feelings. Whether navigating grief, stress, or life’s challenges, Blethr provides tailored resources and conversation channels to support emotional wellbeing. Start your journey with Blethr here: https://bia.blethr.app/
David’s transformation is a testament to the power of vulnerability and community. His story reminds us that it’s never too late to heal, connect, and start anew. If his journey resonates with you, consider exploring resources like “A Grieving Father’s Letter: A Heartfelt Farewell” on the Brothers in Arms website: https://brothersinarmsscotland.co.uk/information/mens-wellbeing-articles/2024/november/21/a-grieving-fathers-letter-a-heartfelt-farewell/
David’s words, “I’ve still got loads to contribute,” serve as a reminder that every man has the strength to embrace his emotions and live authentically. What’s your next step? Whether it’s opening up to someone you trust, exploring Blethr, or reflecting on your emotional journey, remember—you’re not alone. Together, we can break the stigma and create a future where men feel empowered to express their emotions. Learn more about David’s story here: https://www.brothersinarmsscotland.co.uk/information/mens-wellbeing-articles/2025/april/14/a-new-start-after-60-embracing-emotional-breakthroughs-and-the-power-of-vulnerability/